If you or someone else is in immediate danger, call 911.

Not sure if you’re safe? Use the danger risk assessment to assess your risk based on the highest indicators that you or someone you love could be in danger.

Sibling Abuse Resources

Sibling Aggression and Abuse Research and Advocacy Initiative (SAARA)

• Visit unh.edu/saara to learn more about sibling abuse with resources for siblings, parents, and professionals.

Sibling Sexual Trauma 

• Visit siblingsexualtrauma.com/helplines to find a list of international hotlines for sibling sexual abuse and mental health resources. 

5WAVES: Confronting and Healing Sibling Sexual Trauma 

• Visit 5waves.org to join Discord support communities with channels for survivors, parents, and friends of survivors (partners, other family members, grandparents, friends, and loved ones). 

Child Help USA 

• Call or text HELP to 800-422-4453 (800-4-A-CHILD) or open a chat at childhelphotline.org.

• 24/7 child abuse hotline with live crisis counselors who can provide information on how to identify or report child abuse with a database of over 10,000 national, local, and international resources and interpretation services in 170 languages.

RAINN (Rape, Abuse, and Incest National Network) 

• Call 800-656-4673 (800-656-HOPE) or open a chat at rainn.org.

• 24/7 National Sexual Assault Hotline that can provide resources and referrals with connections to more than 1,000 local sexual assault service providers. 

Stop It Now! 

• Call 1-888-773-8368 (1-888-PREVENT) or open a chat at stopitnow.org.

• Helpline for anyone with questions or concerns about child sexual abuse. 

What’s OK? 

• Call 844-942-8765 (844-WHATSOK), text WHATSOK to 1-888-532-0550, or open a chat at whatsokay.org.

• Youth helpline for anyone ages 14-21 with concerns about their own or a friend’s sexual thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. 

National Domestic Violence Hotline 

• Call 800-799-7233 (800-799-SAFE), text START to 88788, or open a chat at thehotline.org.

• 24/7 hotline you can call to get support for yourself or a loved one experiencing domestic violence with trained advocates who can link you to local resources and help with safety planning. 

National Runaway Safeline 

• Call 1-800-786-2929 (1-800-RUNAWAY) or open a chat at 1800runaway.org. 

• 24/7 safeline for young people who are thinking about running away from home or who have already run away. 

1in6 

• Visit 1in6.org for support for men who have been sexually abused, sexually assaulted, or had an unwanted sexual experience including weekly online support groups.  

Domestic Violence Resources

Am I in an abusive relationship?
If you’re not sure if you’re experiencing abuse, learn about red flags, emotional abuse, and different types of abuse. Take the Is my relationship healthy? quiz for more clarity. Why Does He Do That?by Lundy Bancroft is also a great self-help book.

Find local resources.

National Domestic Violence Hotline

• Call 1-800-799-7233, text START to 88788, or chat online.

National Teen Dating Abuse Hotline (love is respect)

• Call 1-866-331-9474 or chat online.

National LGBT Hotline

• Call 1-888-843-4564 or visit the website.

Child Help USA (National Child Abuse Hotline)

• Call 1-800-422-4453 or visit the National Child Abuse Hotline website. Professional crisis counselors can share how to document and report potential cases of child abuse, advocate for kids, and refer families to local treatment centers.

Victim Connect Resource Center

• If you need to seek help for stalking or other crimes, call the Victim Connect Resource Center at 1-855-484-2846. Victim assistance specialists can help you consider whether to report a crime or seek justice through the courts and help you find legal resources in your area.  

FORGE: Transgender Sexual Assault and Dating Violence Resource

• Access self-help guides for trans survivors and those who love them.

Culturally-responsive organizations

• For Asian, South Asian, or Pacific Islander survivors: API Chaya. 1-877-922-4292.  

• For Black survivors: Ujima. 1-844-77-85462 (UJIMA). 

• For Latina survivors: Casa De Esperanza. 1-651-646-5553. 

• For Native survivors: StrongHearts Native Helpline. 1-844-762-8483. 

• For LGBTQ+ survivors: The Network/La Red. 1-800-832-1901.

• For trans survivors: Trans LifeLine. 1-877-565-8860.

• For HIV-affected survivors: New York City Anti-Violence Hotline. 212-714-1141. 

Sexual Assault Resources

National Sexual Assault Hotline

• Call 800-656-4673 (800-656-HOPE) or open a chat at rainn.org.

Safe Helpline

• Call 877-995-5247 or visit the Safe Helpline website for sexual assault survivor support for Department of Defense (DoD) community.

Recommended reading

Memoirs by survivors of sibling abuse and violence 

• Educated by Tara Westover (family and sibling violence)

• I Feel Real Guilty by Jane Epstein (sibling sexual abuse survivor) 

• Everyone Was Silent by Diane Tarantini (sibling sexual abuse survivor)

• Resolve by Alice Perle (sibling sexual abuse survivor)

• Not Child’s Play: An Anthology on Brother-Sister Incest by Risa Shaw

• How to Bury a Boy at Sea by Phil Goldstein (poetry, male sibling sexual abuse survivor) 

Books that touch on themes of abuse within the family and healing 

• Normal People (plus TV adaptation) by Sally Rooney (on sibling psychological abuse, violence, and the long tail of trauma) 

• What My Bones Know: A Memoir of Healing From Complex PTSD by Stephanie Foo (on parent-child abuse)

• Hidden Valley Road: Inside the Mind of an American Family by Robert Kolker (on schizophrenia, physical violence, and sibling sexual abuse) 

Books to support healing and recovery

• Trauma and Recovery and Truth and Repair: How Survivors Envision Justice by Judith Herman

• What Happened to You? by Bruce D. Perry and Oprah Winfrey

• The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk

• Courage to Heal by Ellen Bass and Laura Davis (for survivors of child sexual abuse)

• Beyond Betrayal: Taking Charge of Your Life After Boyhood Sexual Abuse by Richard B. Gartner

• Victims No Longer: The Classic Guide for Men Recovering From Sexual Child Abuse by Mike Lew

• Mother Hunger: How Adult Daughters Can Understand and Heal from Lost Nurturance, Protection, and Guidance by Kelly McDaniel

• Drama Free: A Guide to Managing Unhealthy Family Relationships by Nedra Glover Tawaab

• The Power of Parting: Finding Peace and Freedom Through Family Estrangement by Eamon Dolan

• Transform Your Guilt and Shame by Carolyn Allard

Books for parents 

• What Do I Do Now? A Survival Guide for Mothers of Sexually Abused Children by Mel Langston and Leona Puma

• Parenting From the Inside Out by Daniel J. Siegel and Mary Hartzell (great for parenting after surviving family trauma)

• Raising Loving Siblings by Jonathan Caspi

• Peaceful Parent, Happy Siblings by Laura Markham

Further reading

• No Visible Bruises by Rachel Louise Snyder (on intimate partner violence)

• Violence: Reflections on a National Epidemic by James Gilligan

• Is Rape a Crime? by Michelle Bowdler (on sexual assault, untested rape kits, and injustice)

• The Fact of a Body by Alex Marzano-Lesnevich (on child sexual abuse, murder, and criminal justice)

• Trauma Stewardship: An Everyday Guide to Caring for Self While Caring for Others by Laura van Dernoot Lipsky and Connie Burk

• Heavy by Kiese Laymon

• A Wolf at the Table: A Memoir of My Father by Augusten Burroughs

• Somebody’s Daughter by Ashley C. Ford

• Know My Name by Chanel Miller